As I switch TV-channels in search of something worth looking at for more than 5 minutes, I hear it. It comes from the "experts" on MTV's "All Acess Hollywood". They are talking about anorexia and manorexia (another of the "man are equal to women" buzzwords similar to "metrosexual"). They say (and I quote) : ...doesn't need to be thin to be a successful actress.
And I think "Yeah right!" On the same note one could say that you don't need money to be rich, you don't need eyes to see, you don't need brains to think, you don't need a tongue to speak. That means and pedigree have nothing to do with success.
I do exaggerate of course, but only cause it boggles my mind. The egalitarian thought people grasp on, in their efforts to make one's efforts to achieve sucess unnecessary and superfluous. That somehow, somewhere everything is equal and we all have the same shot at the same success. I feel the sudden urge to shout "Wipe that smurf of your faces" to the experts but the voice in my head is silent.
First and foremost, the definition of success is different. Secondly, our starting points are different. Thirdly, everyone (even a boneless actress) has the right to chose their own means to achieve the success they define as success. If your success is to go the extra mile than nobody has the right to say you are already there. If your sucess is to make the extra million than it doesn't matter if you already have a billion.
And yes, people should be equal. Equal in the meaning that while they define, chose and try to pursuit their own "success brand" they shall not need to meet nothing else than the constraints that nature and nurture brought upon them. They are hard enough to overcome. The expert's opinions "you don't need to" are unnecessary.
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S'ke nevoje te jesh .....per te qene i sukseshem
Teksa shfletoj kanalet televizive ne kerkim te dickaje qe ja vlen ta ndjekesh per me teper se 5 minuta, e degjoj. Vjen nga "ekspertet" e MTV-se "All Acess Hollywood". Po flasin per anoreksine dhe manoreksine (nje tjeter nga fjalet e tipit "burrat jane te barabarte me grate" qe eshte ne mode ashtu si "metrosexual"). Po thone (dhe i citoj) : ...nuk ka nevoje te jete e dobet per te qene nje aktore e sukseshme.
Mendoj me vete "Po pra po!" Ne te njejten menyre njeriu do te mund te thoshte se nuk kemi nevoje per para per te qene te pasur, se nuk kemi nevoje per sy per te pare, se nuk kemi nevoje per gjuhe qe te mund te flasim. Qe mundesite dhe prejardhja nuk kane aspak te bejne me suksesin.
Sigurisht qe po e ekzagjeroj, por vetem sepse me ben konfuze. Mendimi barazues pas se cilit kapen njerezit, ne nje perpjekje per te bere perpjekjet e tjetrit per te arritur suksesin te parendesishme dhe te teperta. Sikur ne njefare menyre, diku, gjithcka eshte e barabarte dhe ne te gjithe kemi te njejtat mundesi per te arritur te njejtin sukses. Ndjej nevojen e papritur t'u bertas " Fshijeni zgerdhitjen nga fytyra" eksperteve, por zeri brenda kokes time ngelet i heshtur.
Pikesepari, percaktimi i suksesit eshte i ndryshem. Se dyti, pikenisjet tona jane te ndryshme. Se treti, cdokush (edhe nje aktore pa kocka) ka te drejten te zgjedhe menyren e vete per te arritur ate sukses qe ajo e quan sukses. Nese suksesi yt eshte te pershkosh (figurativisht) edhe nje kilometer me teper, askush nuk ka te drejte te te thote qe ke arritur ne destinacion. Nese suksesi yt eshte te fitosh edhe nje milion me teper, nuk ka rendesi nese zoteron nje bilion.
Dhe po, njerezit duhet te jene te barabarte. Te barabarte ne kuptimin qe teksa percaktojne, perzgjedhin dhe perpiqen te arrijne "marken" e tyre te suksesit ata nuk kane nevoje per kufizime te tjera pervec atyre qe u sjell natyra dhe shoqeria (ambjenti). Keto dy kufizime jane mjaft te veshtira per t'u kapercyer. Opinonet e eksperteve "nuk ke nevoje" jane te panevojshme.
important to remember that your troubles are probably more apparent than real, no matter how real or significant they seem.
